Husband sleep apnea,won’t get machine, sleep apart, want to sleep w/him.?
Tuesday, April 6th, 2010 at
10:22 am
Husband has really bad case. Begged him to get the machine (told he needs it). As long as he can sleep, thats OK, (selfish I think) doesnt think about how I want to sleep with him. I have tryed ear plugs, fans, music , doesnt work. If he does not want to use the machine, what do I do.
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id sleep apart!, my hubby snores and im tempted to move out the room, my dad has the apnea machine, as much as he hates it he really does sleep better, tell him to get it, cos hes at risk of a heart attack without it xxxxxxxxxxxx
OK , now lets address the real issue. If he does not use his Cpap he is killing himself. Sleep apnea is responsible for strokes and heart attacks. You better do your research before you become a widow. Snoring in the least of it.
Well I’ll tell you what my wife did, this was more than 10 yrs ago now. She said to me.. I love you so much that I can’t watch you die. The Dr. had talked to me about apnea and enlarged heart and all of that. How eventually I would stop breathing in my sleep and that would be it. So she said, if you don’t do this for yourself, I’ve got to go because it hurts too bad to watch you die for no reason. It got my attention. And I tell you what.. after getting the machine my life has been so much better. I thought I was getting sleep… I had no idea how much better I would feel sleeping and actually breathing all night long.
My husband also refuses to use the CPAP. It is more than annoying. I get very little sleep myself and have resorted to sleeping in the other room. This makes me very sad because, I too would like to sleep in the same room as my husband. Has your husband consulted a ENT? Or had a sleep study? There may alternative remedies that may fix his problem. In my husbands case he had a deviated septum, and a problem with his soft pallet, both of which we will be getting fixed with surgery soon. It took us 3 different consults to get help so, be persistent.
You haven’t said that you’re done any research to find out what’s causing the sleep apnea and how you know that he has it. A lot of the times, what causes snoring and sleep apena is enlarged tonsils. I had to have my daughters removed for that reason. If you haven’t taken him to a sleep disorders clinic take him and get him to understand that this is affecting your marriage and that it has to be taken care of. IF he still refuses than there’s a bigger problem going on with him, He sounds passive aggressive and you need to find out (IF THAT’S THE CASE) why!!
the question is are u over weigth if he is tell him that is his promble i have been overweigth and had the same thing and my doctor advise me to lose weigth and i did and i now have no prombles sleeping and i dont so
I had sleep apnea, and my wife complained, the only problem was, we were uninsured. The sleep study is expensive, not to mention the machine, and it’s upkeep. Well we didn’t have to worry about that for very long. See my apnea had gotten so bad, that I became narcoleptic. One night I was driving and passed out and hit a pole. I was so messed up, I couldn’t work. Being out of work, I qualified for medicaid, which allowed me to get a sleep study, and a bi-pap machine, which allowed me to get back to work.
That was very scary, but once I learned what could have happened if it remained untreated, I was determined to keep the machine, even after I became uninsured again. Enlarged heart, hardening of the bronchial (lungs), and brain damage. I think everyone who has sleep apnea, even minor, should be treated.
I understand how you feel now. But somehow when your spouse has sleep apnea, it is not only affect himslef but also you rhealth as you cannot get good quality sleep.
Just by chance, I have just written on yesterday an article on “The Hidden Victim of Sleep Apnea: The Spouse with Sleep Apnea / The Bed Partner with Sleep Apnea’ on my blog http://sleepapnea-insomnia.blogspot.com
You can have a look first to decide whether to let your husband to read.
Try to find a good timing to talk to your husband of how supportive you have been with him, let him know you are with him and have to face sleep apnea hand in hand.
In additional, If left sleep apnea untreated, it can be life-threatening It can also have significant consequences such as motor vehicles crashes, high blood pressure, other cardiovascular disease, erectile dysfunction (impotence), poor memory, short temper, headaches sore throat or dry mouth in the morning.